Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Mid-Life Friendship Crisis
I have been pondering this question for months now. Do you find yourself needing or wanting to change friends in mid-life? Is this the women's version of the mid life crisis? The friends that I had over the past 20 years ago have dwindled to a treasured few. Have I changed that much, have they? Or is it both? I find that we have always had different interests but that never seemed to bother me or give me the feeling that the bond we had is gone. Now I feel that the connection I have with some of them has dwindled to a slow drizzle. Have you ever found yourself in friendships where they mean much more to you, than you do to them? That can't be healthy can it?
It sank home a few days ago when I showed a couple of friends what I thought was a cute post on my blog and they had no interest what so ever, never really looked at the screen. They don't follow my blog and have no interest in that aspect of my life. I don't think the majority of my friends even realize that it bothers me so much that they have so little interest in my blog, my life, or my love of being creative. This is not just a hobby, this is a big part of my life.
Then I have to ask myself, have I moved on from friends and made them feel the same way? My best friend from high school adopted a child over 10 years ago and I thought to myself at the time, well I don't have children so she'll understand when I don't get involved with all the aspects of raising her little girl. I buy Christmas and birthday presents but was that enough? Now I look back and think, was I involved enough? Did I make my friend feel like I had moved on even though I will treasure our friendship till the day I die?
So, here lies the question how do find new friends at the age of 50? Do you try to make new friends or explain to your old friends how you feel? But then, are you putting them on the spot by asking your old friends to change for you, and is that fair to them? Either way I think we'll just fall back into the old version of our friendship.
My the answer to this question has been to look for new friends. I plan to remain close to the few old friends that I still have and, accept the fact that our friendship has become different and in some cases,limited. At the same time search for new friends that have the interests and beliefs that I have. Going to artistic events has been a life saver for my creativity and the beginnings of new friendships. I plan to be pro-active in my search and try to work on new relationships!
Because of this friend mid life crisis of mine, I need to realize that relationships change so, I need to stop wearing my feelings on my sleeve when my old friends don't, get or, have no interest in what I'm doing. In this crisis the need to accept and move on is the only I think my old friendships will work. The way to a healthy me is to move on and add to my rolodex of creative and loving, supportive souls, any takers??
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
|By the time we all finished our Woodland Fairy Garland those wings were coming off! I wonder if "real fairies" have back problems???|
|See! Sherry took her wings off too! I kept whacking the people on both sides of me so I thought with a hot glue gun being used for this project I'd better put my wings away!!|
|There was a little special something everywhere you looked.|
|We had about 60 women for the class! It would get really loud until another project would begin then it all got very quiet because we were all busy concentrating!|
|My place setting for the day. These cake boards worked great for those of us, like me, who tend to make a mess!|
|There was no detail too small to overlook,|
|And every opportunity taken to make the room filled with creative ideas.|
|Even outside of the restrooms looked cute!|
|This was my room mate Kelly Lamb. We had never met face to face, we just started talking via email after I posted one of my silly poems on the message board. We started emailing and talking on the phone some and just decided to room together. We were perfect roommates! I lied and told her she didn't snore and she told me the same. Plus we were both pretty neat and quick to get ready. I am looking forward to having a long and lasting friendship with Kelly.|
|Thank the Lord above the first project was the jewelry piece! As the day goes by I am not as steady with my hands so it was fantastic to get this done first. Now that's not saying I didn't want to throw it across the room a few times when I'd lose a bead or screw up another jump ring. But I did complete it!|
|Then it was time for a snack and a few more photo ops. This is Claudette from Canada and she is the cutest thing you ever did see. She was sweet, nice, funny, and didn't even laugh at my Magnolia Pearl even though it was about to fall down around my ankles! I thought I had altered these pants, wrong! They kept falling down all day! Not a good impression to make with a bunch of ladies I had never met!|
|Next was the mobile. About half way through my eyes started to cross and I didn't finish but I brought everything home to finish it. It really was cute! I kept imagining it in a babies room with little animals hanging from the crystal beads.|
|Found my fluffy, ruffle buddy Sherry and we had to take another photo. Boy do I need to remember to stand up straight and suck it in, Yikes not a good photo of me, but great of Sherry! We then took a lunch break and had a photo class by Tiffany which I understood about 1% of. She assures me I can call her anytime for hints. I plan on taking her up on it!!|
|This was the last project, a Cloche, which I had never done before so it was fun to see how it was all put together. I must admit I was feeling pretty tired so I decided to finish the rest of mine at home. They did put on some disco music to wake us up but I think it was too late for me, I was pooped!|
|Kelly and Marion both sat at my table on both sides of me poor dears. I kept asking them for help and direction! I'm sure by the time it was all over they wanted to tell me where to put my Pearl!|
|These are two of my other table mates, Trisha and Lynn, I'm not sure where Becca was??|
|This is not mine but this is what some one else's ended up looking like. I think it turned out great! Now just to get it home in one piece!|
|Our last day was on Sunday and this was the day of the swaps. We all met at a bakery to exchange everyone's treasures. Fortunately this year I decided that since I signed up late I would see what a real swap looked like because I had never done one before.|
|Boy am I glad I did! The swaps were over the top with their wrapping and presentation alone. This table was filled with Fairy Pin swaps so what you see are just the wrappings, Yikes, I felt way out of my league!|
|Sweet Shelley Burgess in her Laurel headpiece. She looked like a fairy bride! Just adorable!|
|This was a pretty small bakery so I am standing at the door just holding the camera up in the air to get this shot! I thought since I was not involved with any of the swaps I needed to stay out of the way!|
|"Turn out the lights, the party's over." The sad part was that it went by so quickly! I made so many wonderful creative friends and had so much fun with them! The other good news is that I don't feel stuck in my creative rut anymore, it took a little nudge from some wonderful new friends to spread my fairy wings and start to fly again.|
Sorry this post is a little under par, something was going on in "bloggerland", nothing wanted to work!
Monday, October 10, 2011
Well I'm off to Jennifer Hayslip's "Once upon a Dream" on Thursday and I am so excited. Meeting new friends and spending time with old friends.
We'll be in Asheville, North Carolina where the fields are green,
and it actually gets cool at night!!
But I've been wondering, what happens,
when you try to change a West Texas Cowgirl
into a magical Fairy?
Will I turn out to be a storybook fairy?
Will I earn a magic wand,and a bag of fairy dust?
Arg! Or a spooky mean witchy fairy that grows warts
and drinks pond scum, a.k.a., generic beer ?
I'm taking all my frilly things covered in lace, Magnolia Pearl and then some.
A lot of pink,
and a lot of ruffles!!
So, maybe by the end of the weekend I will have turned into a real live magical fairy! I'll fly through airport security, float into first class and sprinkle magical fairy dust onto all the cranky children. Then I'll fly home on the puffs of a cloud and a candlelight dinner will be awaiting me. Then I'll hear "The pilot will have us landing in 10 minutes, please place your seats in an upright position..." I'll let you know!! I wish you all were going to be here with me!